unveiling
FROM DARKNESS TO LIGHT
Welcome to a world where time is irrelevant and all familiarity ceases to exist.
Where we are invited to abandon our dreams, surrender to our sorrow, and rest in a profound simplicity of being.
From the depths of darkness - within our purpose-built, completely blacked-out, soundproof “caves” - people emerge with a direct knowing of a deeper truth within.
The eye masks are only used when we transition people from inside in the darkness to outside in the light.
Darkness retreat strips us of everything we’ve used in the world to build an image - to gain self-worth - to feel powerful and important - and to have a sense of meaning and purpose.
We’re left with our interior - with our coping mechanisms, insulative patterns, dissociative habits and overlaid structures -- along with our tender hearts and the depth and simplicity of our presence.
We’re met with a very clear choice — continue chasing the dream of self-importance, of peak experiences, of avoiding our lack and neurosis — or simply soften, let go off control, receive ourselves as we are and gently open.
COMPLETELY
unadorned
THE SOUL DOES NOT GROW BY
addition
BUT BY
subtraction
- Meister Eckhart
What matters most?
What lies beyond our striving - our achieving - our healing - our awakening?
One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.
- C.G. Jung
THERE ARE
no practices
necessary
FOR THIS QUEST
- Ramana Maharashi
In this place of darkness - In this space of silence - What remains?
What is underneath our posturing, our personality, our attempts to be seen and validated?
INTO THE
Beyond
Darkness retreat invites us into the Beyond.
When we stop chasing meaning - both in the things of the world and also in our experience - we begin to touch what lies underneath our seeking.
There’s a profound softness that beckons us from the Beyond - a faint whisper - the tiniest little bit.
When we feel safe enough to truly lean into the Unknown - when we trust our body enough to give it to the Unseen — we soften and open to a vast mystery within.
With no hope of gain and no fear of loss — we settle into our bodies while the waves of experience continue to move through us.
What lies beyond my habitual way of being?
STRICTLY SPEAKING,
THERE ARE NO
ENLIGHTENED PEOPLE,
ONLY
enlightened
activity
- Suzuki Roshi
Darkness retreat reveals our coping strategies, subconscious defense patterns and assimilated beliefs. If we’re truly willing to remain honest to what we see and what we feel when we’re fully exposed and vulnerable - we tend to first make contact with our anxiety, guilt and/or shame that tend to inhibit and cover our fear, sadness and/or anger.
If we continue to remain true and unadorned - held in the warm and open embrace of the darkness - we have the felt-experience of our lives. We allow ourselves to feel what we never had access to or what we never had permission to feel - a true return to innocence.
In the sweet and subtle nourishment of receiving care in this timeless reality - while staying connected to this profoundly simple core honesty - we come home to ourselves - genuinely welcomed - exactly as we are.
What happens when I don’t use culture to gauge my worth?
Am I sincerely willing to be exposed?
THE MOST IMPORTANT
THING IS TO REMEMBER
the most
important thing
- Suzuki Roshi
"Surrendering to your sorrow has the power to heal the deepest of wounds."
- Sobonfu Some
DIVE DEEP INTO THE HEART OF
the unknown
In the darkness - with nothing to hide behind - we are fully exposed.
We clearly see what is right underneath our persona.
We feel the desperation to seek experiences that will validate our worth, prop up our sense of self, and distract us from our sorrow.
And yet nothing lasts long enough in the dark except darkness itself.
We begin to discover that it doesn’t really matter what we’re experiencing - it just matters how deeply given we are to what we’re experiencing.
We soften. We surrender. We open. And our relationship to "what is" becomes paramount.
What directly connects me to what matters most?
Vulnerable - Stripped - Raw - Bare - Naked
This is how many describe a darkness retreat.
It brings us into a level of vulnerability that we’ve never felt before.
With nothing to hide behind, nowhere to escape to, and no validations to ride on — we see things exactly as they are.
And if we're willing to be honest, gentle and welcoming - we drop into the essential nature of darkness - we slow down - we expand - we soften into a spaciousness - and we rest in the timeless nature of our being.
Open - Inclusive - Receptive - Perceptive - Rested
exposed
Who are we before culture defined us?
Keahi, the 13-year old in this video, was visiting the land with his family and got the chance to chat with a few dark retreatants after they emerged from their time in the dark. He was touched by the impactful stories that they shared and he wanted to experience it for himself.
Rites of passage are woven throughout all living cultures. They mark a significant transition and function as an essential movement and initiation into the next phase of growth.
Darkness retreat invites us beyond all culturally-conditioned desires and our need to belong to these arbitrary norms and standards. This allows us to clearly see what truly matters most.
As we soften into the darkness - we begin feel a profound sense of belonging in our body - we begin to realize a new way of being.
belonging
What am I unwilling to feel?
What happens when there is nothing to gain?
What does vulnerability feel like?
TO ATTAIN KNOWLEDGE - ADD THINGS EVERYDAY
To attain wisdom - remove things everyday
- Lao Tzu
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE STOP
Acheiving?
Darkness retreat invites us into seemingly the most insignificant experience of our lives - absolutely nothing is happening - and all that exists is deep black space.
No progressing.
No healing.
No fixing.
No awakening.
No insight.
No peak experience.
Nothing lasts long enough to carry us through the day.
The end of hope is the beginning of acceptance.
Our world completely turns inside out as doing is replaced with being and achieving is replaced with softening. And as we surrender into the greatest insignificance of our lives - we truly receive ourselves exactly as we are and rest in a profound simplicity that carries us all the way home again.
What happens when we stop romanticizing the journey?
What happens when we're truly honest with what we feel?
LET COME WHAT COMES
LET GO WHAT GOES
see what remains
- Ramana Maharshi
What happens when time becomes irrelevant?
AND THE END OF ALL OUR EXPLORING
WILL BE TO ARRIVE WHERE WE STARTED
and know the place
for the first time
- T.S. Elliot
What happens when accomplishments and achievements no longer inform how we move?
INSTEAD OF SEARCHING FOR
WHAT YOU DO NOT HAVE,
find out what it is
that you have never lost
- Nisargadatta
What does it feel like in our body to simply receive care?
What does it feel like to rest in power?
Am I truly willing to simply receive myself as I am right now?